Recently when chatting to a few of the ladies at work, they were astounded that I actually looked forward to the labour of my next child.
I’m sure that as I left their desk cluster they muttered among themselves about what a hippy masochistic nutcase I am. I’d argue that I’m educated and focused on less pain and a more relaxed experience that is special not traumatic.
I ain’t gonna sugar coat things, for those who’ve not been there and done it. It’s sodding painful, and when it’s long and drawn out it’s blooming exhausting too – marathon pahh! Think of an Iron Man and then you’re talking. If my first labour was anything to go by it was very long and pretty painful – but that’s generally the deal isn’t it? No pain, no gain.
I’m pro natural birth and getting yourself properly educated and prepared first. I am not pro pain, let’s get that straight!
I want natural and less pain, but don’t take away the gas and air. That’s all I ask for, let me trip on it a couple of times and I’m a happy woman. Don’t get my wrong, if I was totally averse to pain I’d been listing all the pain relieve options in my birth plan, but I want to be connected to the birth process even if that does involve moments of saying “I’m in hell, get me out of here now“…yes I do recall saying that to hubby in one point during my first labour. But at no point was I going to entertain the idea of drugs, call me bloody minded, call me determined, but I had a plan and I was damn well going to stick to it. No doctors and their needles were going to come near me trying to win me over with their smooth talk.
Why natural? Why no drugs?
Before you read this bit, remember I am no midwife, doula or medical professional – I am only drawing from my own memory of the great books I’ve read. Before shooting them off as total fact, make sure you double-check them first. So let’s make this clear, this is my understanding – and you’re welcome to put me straight if I’m wrong.
Why crazy woman do you refuse drugs in labour?
a) Because I know how much messing around drugs does to mummy and baby’s bodies and hormones – not always conducive to a good start to breastfeeding for example.
b) Many drugs also involve monitoring, which means you’re attached to machines and stuff. This isn’t my beef, what I don’t like are the restrictions to moving about and more importantly no birth pool. Electronics and water with mama and baby don’t mix well. A birth pool is a big MUST for me, even if it’s just to serve as a good distraction and to breakup the pain monotony for an hour. I’d like to think I could give birth in the pool next time around rather than just labour in it as I did with babe.
c) Drugs can sometimes slow labour down and result in a higher chance of medical intervention. Who wants a C-section or forceps delivery? Now if you say yes, then you really are crazy 😉
On the other hand, some might be thinking I’m a control freak untrusting of medical intervention. I’ll put them straight now, I’m not. I don’t mind doctors, I don’t mind hospitals and lurve pain killers, but childbirth is not like having a medical problem, it’s a natural process that the body has been design to be equipped to do (not that it always works but you know).
I won’t even go there with my wistful thoughts about homebirth.
But I promise to share my natural almost water birth story to babe with you soon. Warning, bring ear plugs!
- Forget gas and air, give me a hypnobirth (telegraph.co.uk)